For More Success, Happiness and Effectiveness

We are never happy with where we are or what we got, either we complain about everything or want more, not that there is something wrong with that but it would be more effective if we spot the errors in our concepts and try to fix them, to see if the problem within ourselves or within the world, society or even other people.

The first question we should ask ourselves when we get in this cycle of unsatisfaction is; what is lacking in our lives or what is needed to be changed and why? The key is not the answer itself but the level of honesty we deal with ourselves, it is an attempt to explain the pure perception we hold on life; is it coming from within us, like our own values and principles, or is it something we see as a trend in the world around us?

The second question is, what is more, important to us happiness or success, and the definition of both concepts .. What is happiness? What is a success? 

Let’s ask ourselves for a moment; where did we get our perception about these concepts, and how we developed our view about them? But let’s put in mind while answering these things that such concepts are wide and stretched depends on people, different people means different meanings and values.

Recently, I browsed through books by a writer called Daniel Coyle, explaining ways to be more successful, the books were very useful but it made me question a lot of things; what is a success and how we can measure our success and according to whom? More importantly, why we are so obsessed with the idea of being more and more successful? Why not, enjoying life be happy and do whatever makes us wake up with a smile? Why the hell we live to standards set by others from their own point of view!!!

I am not saying here we all just have to be lazy and unproductive .. my point is, we stopped living our lives and fulfill our destiny by living up to the society/world standards, we stopped being ourselves just to be puppets moved by other, we do things the way others expect us to do, not because we see things that way, we stopped being happy but running in cycle looking for happiness, though as everything started from us it should end by us, we shouldn't live according to any standards but our own, our purpose in life should be living happily and fulfilling our destiny ... it is that simple!

Let explain you how, instead of taking a job you hate or not enjoy just do something you love, something you are really passionate about and good at, I will not repeat here the same things always said  about the more you in love with your work the more successful you will be but I will say: the road will be hard, it might sound way easier to accept a safe job with regular income and bearing the headache of uncertainty but; when you step toward your choice the further you go toward the thing you love you will push yourself to new limits, you will learn way more, not only about the thing you love but about yourself as well, you may fail but you will learn how to handle failure and learn from it, you will be able to find new paths that will lead you to new opportunities, you will train yourself to be whoever you want. You will learn, relearn and unlearn many things and all of this will add to you as a person and will create the unique YOU.

During this journey you will have to stop dreaming and you will have to be the initiator of every move, you will train yourself to get where you want, you will learn discipline and commitment along the way, you will be a whole different person because you are living your life according to what you want, not as how it was planned for you, that will make you an interesting person full of energy, happiness, and satisfaction … The most important, you will wake up every morning with a smile in your face because you are doing what you want to do, you will enjoy every second spent in doing that thing because it is your choice, you wouldn't mind working overtime or the workload and pressure because it will be a pleasure for you to spend time doing things you really love and enjoy, and by this, you will be more successful, not because you fulfill some requirements or standards but because you gave your whole to this and that will make it work for you despite everything.

People think that the most successful people are successful because of their habits or behaviors, while if we examined almost all successful people we would find one common thing among them all; they all did something they love and they are good at, they were more productive not because they woke up at a certain time but because they enjoyed what they were doing, they were more dedicated and committed because that was their pleasure, they got better not because they went to top schools but because they wanted to know more and more about the thing they are enjoying and working with, which allowed them not only be more knowledgeable and experienced but more creative, they all failed but they learned from failure and learned to deal with failure, which made them the successful people we see today, we didn't see their suffering and struggle to get to the top, we only see the glory and want to get there but we don't know the real story of struggle to be happily successful.  

Do you want to be more effective, successful and happy? Be yourself, follow your dreams and stop listening to others or t the world, we have our own perceptions of everything, why we should ever follow other people point of view of what is right or wrong for us, what is a success or what is happiness … the only person who knows this is you, ONLY YOU.