The older we get, the wiser we become and the more mindful we should turn to be,
supposedly that should make life easier. But the truth is, the more thoughtful
we are the harder life gets. We are animals that were primitively designed for
survival. The animal/us developed intellectual capabilities beyond survival
which keeps fucking up our brain constantly. Because the human brain is a very
complicated evolving mechanism with very simple programming and slow adaptation
capabilities. The smarter we get the bigger chances our brain will glitch with
the simplest of a concept.
Happiness, for example, biologically very simple concept. The brain reward system is very primitive, it keeps us aware of
good things and constantly searches for rewards to keep us motivated and learning but it
forgets about their happening immediately. on the other hand, our defense mechanism keeps
reminding us of the bad moment to avoid repeating them to help us survive.
Which leads us to believe that bad moments are far more than good moments and
we eagerly keep trying to experience the rewarding feeling. The issue with
these two systems that they are very intuitive and basic. There is no deeper sense to
their exact function except survival. BUT they have the ability to complicate our lives due
to the lack of mindfulness in our modern life.
If some functions of our brain are
simple that doesn't mean life will be. Life has its own rhythm. There are good
moments and bad moments, however, our brain seeks the good moments and wants more of
them. In the same time, it usually keeps remembering the bad moments and tries to avoid them at all cost. What happens if we are not aware of ourselves and our lives, we keep
chasing good moments in an attempt to reach happiness, because our brain
translates happiness as a reward (brain chemistry) but in fact the more we chase
good moments the less happy we become because we realize they do not last. To
the contrary of that, our brain tries to skip bad moment and feel pressured by
them which makes us remember more of them. The more we follow this pattern of
thought the less happy we become and the darker we perceive life. Our brain
glitch simply because it tries to keep its simple programming of reward and
defense for survival purposes which not necessarily needed most of the times.
Which we need to make a mindful effort to realize and stop.
Life is good and bad equally.
What makes us happy is the inconstancy we have in life between good and bad. If
life was all good we wouldn't be happy with it and we would've got bored and
despaired from life. All we need to constantly remember (be mindful) is that not good nor
bad can last forever. All comes to an end and it is part of the cycle of life.
We need to train our modern brain to stop and think whenever a pattern persists
and analyze pragmatically. Whenever you feel like life getting darker stop and think
of all the good things that happened to you recently and compare them to bad
things. Make a list, keep a journal .... It doesn't matter which way you will try
to keep a record; just train yourself to keep a record. Make a comparison and see
yourself and you will realize that life has its own balance. Go back to good
moments and be grateful that you experienced them. Go back to bad moments and
let them be a lesson for you to be a better person and to remember that nothing
lasts forever. That's why I believe, many ancient
teachings connected happiness to gratitude. Gratitude helps us to keep grounded, it makes us able to fool our
brain thirsty reward system and make us feel genuinely happy as we should be for experiencing raw life even if we think we shouldn't be. Life is a continuous cycle and whether you
see it dark or bright that will not change the outcome in any way. The better
you feel, the more mindful you are, it helps you to keep a clear perspective and
a peaceful outlook on almost everything.
Although I almost worship the human
brain and fascinated by it. But we should remember, The brain is a wonderful
servant but a terrible master. We better keep it on a short leash whenever is
needed to keep the balance in our lives.
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