Monday, January 27, 2014

On Happiness and other silly stuff

Again the most asked question is been asked again, I have been asked this zillion times.

The person: what are you so happy about?
Me: excuse me!
The person: Just you are smiling and you look so happy, I am curious to know the reason.
Me: Okaaaaay! What makes you think I am happy, maybe I am not, I am just smiling
The person: no you look happy
Me: it is called gratitude.
The person: continue …..
Me: your bus will come soon or mine and this is broad concept … but let’s say I am happy because I am alive this morning, have health and all I need to survive… so why I won’t be happy!
The person: that’s it, you have this wide smile in this freezing cold weather because you are alive!
Me: YES! You tell me why you are so gloomy and sad?
The person: because I live in the real world and face problems like everybody else.
Me: like everybody else! So I might have problems too why I am smiling and you are not? I will tell you why… because I chose to, I have a problem right I ask myself can I solve it; if my answer is yes then why I should worry (here I noticed they wanna say something but I kept going) if my answer is no (their eyes brightened as if they are saying YES explain it smart pants) then I just ignore it because I have nothing to do about it so what’s the point of killing myself over something I can’t change.
Here I noticed that they were disappointed with my answer.
Me: Look it is the matter of choice, you can be happy and direct your energy and your unconscious mind to solve the problem which will be solved eventually or preoccupy your mind and emotions with sadness and get it distracted from solving the real problem. It is easier said than done but when we practice to get control over your feelings and mind life gets easier and all the keys of happiness will be in your hand, there is no magic or secret spell for happiness …. There is only hard way that will accompany us through our whole life and we all will fall down and cry, it is your choice to get up and dry your tears and continue your road or you can stop where you fell and stay there crying your whole life. Trust me in both cases you will suffer but if you chose the harder road of happiness you will be more satisfied because you know that happiness is a road not a destination and you been up and down but you never gave up, you will be happy because you had the choice, because you owned your life … you didn’t blame anyone on what happened to you, you feel that you are invincible because you controlled the one thing that most of people can’t control; Your mind (conscious and unconscious) because mind is a dangerous master but a beautiful servant.
We chose long time ago to blame the world, the people and the whole universe about what happens to us, we called it luck, we called it fate and we called it reality, we didn’t doubt the system for one second and questioned why what happens, happens only to certain people .. Why some people are so happy and lucky their whole life and others are miserable and suffering for their whole life! We never questioned why some people are hanging between the two worlds. Did we ask ourselves why good things tend to happen when we are happy and bad things happens when we are down? We never ask the questions that worth to be asked because we fear the answer, we fear to be accountable for our Fate, Luck and Reality; we preoccupy our minds with foolish things to distract it from what really matters …. Our happiness, success and fulfillment …. It is way easier to say all of this out of your hand and you have no control over it because then you won’t be accountable for what crosses your bath because then you will only be a puppet in the hand of invisible power that decided your whole life, because by this you will be the victim not the aggressor. By doing this you give away the only superpower you have as human being, you give away the treasure that God gave us, which is hidden nowhere but inside of us and only few people are able to see it.
I will leave you with one question, why don’t you try to take the road of happiness? What you will lose? At least you know you have tried, and there is nothing you will lose; in both cases you will be the same miserable you are today but with the happiness road you only take the chance of being happy and find your luck and meet your fate!
The person: …………………………………………………..!
Me: Have faith, not in any thing supernatural, just have faith in yourself and say “Abracadabra” and you will create what you say.

The End ;)

Thursday, January 23, 2014

Originality

And she asked about originality.

I answered her: my dear being original doesn’t mean the detestation of the world or looking down to people it is something profound and deep … it is the rejection of the world in its current structure and the consistent attempts to change it through our action and our being, it is the unending battle to defeat our negativity by the strength of our positivity presence … originality doesn’t allow you to judge other people or despite people because of their behaviors, it is more about showing none acceptance for such ignorance and arrogance and accordingly raise above it. Originality, is the ability to be you, only you as clear and honest as you could be; take the water as example: it is original because it never changes its form according to what its environment, water is always water in a glass of gold or glass of mud … it saves our lives in any way we drink it because water is just water always simple yet very important for the existence of all creatures and always will be. So we should just be ourselves and serve our purpose of existence without attempts to make our presence in this planet more glorious or important than it really is, we should be ourselves with all transparency we can … originality speaks up its mind, expresses its feeling and enjoys its moment, most important originality works with life not against it because it knows that those who go against life will always lose; only then we will be important enough because we served and fulfilled our duty in this life.

Saturday, December 28, 2013

The deadly bigotry of Islam


WARNING: as I begin I just want to mention that I don’t intend to insult anyone or offend anyone’s feelings… my main goal of writing my blog is to speak up my mind and express my thoughts; if you will be offended of serious criticism of Islam then it is the time to navigate from this page to another Islam friendly page because I am about to get really hard on my religion and my people and yes I am Muslim and still Muslim despite whatever you might think …. So, shall we start?!

Chaos is spreading through the Middle East and the Islamic world, proxy wars are invading all taboos and smashing against the wall all the values we brag and preach people about;  killing spread to include even Muslims from the same sects and the classic excuses and fatwas became really lame, from the east to west from north to south Muslims have committed the most brutal and hideous crimes with the name of Islam and unfortunately the only thing the majority of Muslims have said or done is the usual classic “that’s not part of the real Islam” .. so brothers and sisters what is the real Islam, and who the hell is representing this type of Islam. For a thousand times I said if the followers of a certain religion are not the representatives of this religion then what’s the point of this religion in the first place!!
During the last decade or so, a lot of what we call the spirit of Islam has been compromised not once or twice but over and over again and the majority of Muslims all over the world done nothing serious to stop this madness, in fact, people became even more radical than before! I am not suggesting to do a revolution against anyone but at least we should start to question and investigate what we are following as Islam and maybe try to find this “Real Islam” between the ruins that the current version of Islam left behind. Let’s do a quick check for what we claim is the spirit of Islam we have violated during the last decade:


Islam is a peaceful religion; I am sorry but I can stop laughing while writing this, peace hmmm; I think either we check our definition for peace or easier to admit that the Islam today has nothing in common with peace at all.... if you chose the first one then we can go in debate for pages about how the Islam practiced today had nothing  to do with peace, I don’t care how many versus people will present from the Quran but if you are not practicing these things then please just open any news channel and watch to know how peaceful Islam is.
Islam doesn’t contradict with common sense and logic, this one is funny too but it doesn’t make me laugh as much because I find it hard to believe how people with a brain can believe what those radicals believe, 70 virgin wives in heaven for killing people ….. Really! Or should I mention Jihad marriage, even better if I mention the adults’ breastfeeding …right?! I think these three examples are enough to make my point but if you are interested in knowing more just check the Wahhabi Fatwas and the interpretation of the Quran for Ibn Katheer or just browse Sahih Muslim or Bukhari and I assure you will be amused.

Islam spread through tolerance and acceptance of others … okay, maybe but can I know why  Muslims then kill apostates, gay or non-Muslims? Another one, why the only thing we read about Islam spread throughout the world is through invasions? Is that what tolerance stands for in our dictionary and is killing is the synonym of acceptance of others???

Muslims are the example of morals and values and any Muslims will talk to you about this will use prophet  Muhammed’s saying “I was sent to complete the good morals” but a quick visit to the street of a Muslim country may leave you speechless, men are harassing women constantly, though they are fully covered, people are so dirty and they have the worst morals and habits; they curse, make fun of others and they are the worst racists in the world through every behavior I mentioned here was mentioned in the Quran or hadith and Muslims were ordered to avoid these behaviors … of course I am not talking about all Muslims but I am talking about the majority of them or the social groups they live in.

I honestly can keep going on and on and on through this list but I only need to give examples to make my point, I am not criticizing Islam just to make fun of it, I just want my brothers and sisters in Islam to start thinking about Islam, reject the classic ideology and fix what needs to be fixed, we start from ourselves, our families, and small societies … we should stop following scholars blindly; and why we need them in the first place, most people are educated and can read through the Quran themselves and can find their own interpretation, why we all should follow the same thing when we are so different .. as well, we should reject violence in general under any excuse, against any human being because according to our Quran we were sent to build-up this planet not to destroy it, we should value human life and human being because we all brothers and sisters, and the most important this is to stop using Islam as an identity because this is the major problem and the way government used to serve their own interest since Moawia took the power and created the first The Islamic state, Islam is more of a lifestyle; changeable lifestyle, you can create your own Islam according to your life depending on your data, why we would allow some people living in their own castles in Macca, Tehran or wherever to tell us how to live our lives and how to practice Islam, isn’t the whole idea of Islam as the third and last Abrahamic religion is fixed what was missing in Judaism and Christianity?
Finally, despite all madness and craziness going on, I am hopeful that this dark period is just the beginning of new Islamic renaissance, where people start to take over their lives and beliefs and look to Islam with logic and with investigator’s eyes, not just follow blindly, because that’s not the way God created us and I am pretty sure is not the way he chose for us, he blessed us with the amazing brain with fascinating abilities to think and investigate, to research and invent. He gave as the gift of foresight to have a belief that guide our senses to a better life, where we make this planet a better place for us and others … or what is the point of religion if it will only lead us to more ugliness and brutality.. Think about that as I leave you with these ideas.

Saturday, October 26, 2013

Schizophrenia


Sometimes I wonder, and start to question myself… sometimes I get confused of who am I? not because I don’t know the answer but because I am in constant  monitoring of myself; for me I might sacrifice any part of my personality but I would die trying to keep three parts, my soul, my humanity and my moral sense.
Recently, I have been receiving a tremendous negative feed backs of the stand I am taking in this life, people I know very well being unsatisfied by my behaviors, funny enough people I don’t know or never met also sending me advises and criticizing the aspects of my life and the most importantly, people I love are finding difficult time to accept me as a person and human being away from all our intellectual/ behavioral differences; which I find might be very harmful in many aspects but lucky for me I was born with strong personality that these types of criticism don’t affect me; raised by an amazing father who supported me while I was growing up really shaped my character and made me more open to receive criticism without letting it affect me psychologically because I know and accept that difference is crucial part of this life and no matter what I do it will always make someone unhappy.  though I usually start with my own experience but usually it is not the main point, I try through my writings to highlight the obstacles women, and young people face in the Arab world, try to relate to these problems from my own experiences with enormous certainty that most of young generation had to face similar situations.

Coming from the Arab world set some rules for your life, whether you accept them or not; in most cases you have to live by them because breaking these rules may cause unrepairable damage but as well living by them make you live a double life; secret life “your own personal life that you chose for yourself” and the life that you will show to the family, friends and the society you come from, and living this way is not healthy choice … after a while you start to feel a little be schizophrenic and you get confused of who you really are; even in the best cases when you overcome this feeling then you have to be in regular monitoring for your life  because the hidden feel of guilt will always be there, sometimes it will be blurry for you to see clearly and other times you will be just cautious of being caught living your life. Of course I wouldn’t describe myself as schizophrenic but living under these rules for so long made my life schizophrenic somehow, which make me really think of how other young Arab people are living this life, as I said before I am pretty strong which make me able to face a lot and I am actually living my life the way I want; not hiding anything unless it may hurt people I really care about but this make me really question how these young people survive this hectic life, how they survive in day to day basis and how much they could enjoy the life under such prohibitions and pressure …. I spent hours trying to find a way to help those young girls and boys including my own self but I always reached the same result, that it is personal and every person should assess the damage that he/she can or want to manage and start from there because every person is  unique character and have different priorities. Sadly enough it is not something I can do an initiative for, or start a campaign to fight it, it is social structure need to be changed slowly to be more lenient to accept difference and giving the personal freedom to people so they can live their life healthier without any psychological damage and without hypocrisy, without having to think twice about who we are in public and who we are in private because it is emotionally and psychologically draining to be forced to be someone but the real you.

I know most of the times what I write is dark and negative but I really believe we have to admit the problems so we can fix them, we have to assess the damage to be able to measure the effort and know the tools we need to fix these problems, I certainly believe that admitting the problem is usually 30% of the solution because it allows your mind to take a neutral stand from the case and make your mind able to assess everything clearly. I might sometimes get so hard on the Arab society, and that’s because I do care about people more than anything else and I hate to see my friends, colleges and other people suffer because of social traditions and norms … I wish for my daughter, friends,  myself and other people a better society where we are accepted for who we really are, not what we chose to do or how we chose to live our lives, a society where we can feel safe enough to express our own beliefs and ideas without the fear of being expelled or treated differently just because we have different mentality or life style. To sum up, I really hope that every young Arab person stand for his/her life and live by their own rules, assess the situation and make the sacrifice they need to make, if they have to … to live their lives the fullest they can, we only live once so we should take the initiative to change the life to be more tolerant for our hopes and dreams, more liberal to our different choices and lifestyles because the society we create is the world we will live in.

Thursday, October 17, 2013

Me .... as a liberal & Muslim Arab woman

I never complained or tried to strip from my roots as an Arab and Muslim woman, I never saw that as an obstacle because I looked at the full half of the glass and never gave much attention to the other empty half, that’s how I was and will always be. But with time passing and with all the events and moments I had to experience I felt the obligation to clarify the idea of me as a “liberal woman” in the Muslim Arab world.

There are a lot of stereotypes about the liberals in the Muslim world not only women; men as well, beside that we suffer a lot to practice or even express what we believe in, living in conservative society puts a lot of barriers in front of any person who would like to have ideas or live outside the social and religious norms, what gives the image of either oppressed or rebellious person; though that might not be completely true. sometimes it becomes really hard to explain who I am, because I don’t present the usual stereotype of a Muslim Arab woman, for a lot of non-Arabs I create a lot of confusion,  I have been asked A LOT if I am a Muslim and when I say yes then the flood of question overwhelm me, why you don’t wear hejab? Why you are here by yourself? Is your family ok with all of that? Is being a liberal means you don’t practice Islam? And even more questions that I have no space to present here .. but the point is, nobody really understand how liberalism can be combined with Islam because all the world knew about Islam is being an extreme religion, because that’s what most of the Muslims and international media present. For me Islam is part of my identity but it shouldn't define who I really am, I still stress every time that I am pretty much a Muslim, maybe not to conservative Muslims and absolutely not to Extremists, but I can say with confident that I am a liberal Muslim and a Liberal woman, I believe in a peaceful, flexible Islam where everybody should care more about morals and behaviors more than the empty practices, where you do the good to everybody “not only your religious group” because that is what our journey all about, I believe in Islam where the inner good and humanity is more important than praying 5 times a day, where you pay Zakat not because you are obligated but because you want to help others have a decent life. In short, I believe in liberal Islam where what you practice doesn't contradict with who you are as a person and human, Islam brings out the good in you and make you a better person, modest and humble.

For me coming from the Middle East, specially the Arab World, especially specially Yemen is a privilege, because I am the descendent of  one of the greatest and oldest civilization in this world, having the blood of Sheba in my veins make me walk taller, feel more proud of who I am. Though I have this positive attitude that doesn’t mean I didn’t suffer from traditions and social restrictions, usually when people see strong Arab woman they don’t imagine how much I have to go through to be just myself; not only me put a lot of other liberal women, we have to face our families, friends, society and the whole structure to just have our own freedom to choose what is suitable for us, we had to lose in the process a lot of things, things we should allow the society to take away from us but we had to compromise, to get where we are,  sometimes we had to lose the family love and support, sometime we had to lose our loved ones, sometimes we had to lose it all, but the most unfortunate when you have to lose yourself or part of it! Don’t be fooled by my smile or my steel external look because that what every single liberal women I know developed during her life in the Arab world, we had to create a shield to protect ourselves from the world we live in, we had to face traditions and people just to be humans. Though I believe we should carry our heritage with us and never forget our roots but I think of myself as a human first and last, a person who would like to leave a mark in this life and do good. Coming from a place like the middle east give me a sense of obligation to achieve what my ancestors achieved once, it never was enough to just brag about our history and tradition, because traditions come with responsibility; to keep them but  in the same time balance them so they don’t overwhelm our lives with unnecessarily complications, yes we should keep our traditions but without forcing them on everybody, without feeling superior to anyone else, having traditions and long history is not everything; we should keep up with the world and development and don’t allow ourselves to be trapped in the past.

To sum up, being a liberal and Muslim Arab, formed me as a person no different than any other liberal person from any other religious or cultural background, I just needed to do more work to get where other people started, without even they realize how privileged they were to be where they were ... being a liberal doesn’t necessary mean that I am always rebellious, because sometimes I will be but sometimes I won’t, as well doesn’t mean I am oppressed, yes I had to face difficulties and loses as everybody in this planet. I just want to create a balance between who I am as person, who I am as a part of social and religious 

Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Interfaith conflict in the Middle East

Middle East a region torn by conflicts since the beginning of time, with a rich history and old civilizations impacted the structure of the Middle East. Many people think that interfaith conflicts in the Middle East is a contemporary trend which is a point of view proven to be wrong, the current interfaith conflicts among Islam and other religions as well, among Islamic doctrines themselves dated way back to 14 century ago, with the appearance of Islam as the new religion and applying new rules and laws that exclude other religions and treat them less equally to Muslims, then comes the historic conflict after 21 years of the death of Prophet Mohammed and by the assassination of the fourth Caliph Othman ben Affan and taking his murder as an excuse to change not only the political structure of the Islamic community but as well the religious environment.
Through this article I will try to present not only the historic background for the long lasting interfaith conflict in the Middle East but as well shade the historical impact on the current conflicts and what I believe the solutions for these conflicts.

The Arabian Peninsula. (Arabia) attained a high level of civilization and culture continuing from antiquity until the rise of Islam in the seventh century C.E. In its southwestern part several developed states existed like the kingdom of Sheba, Ḥimyar and others; the northern part however was inhabited by a variety of peoples who, whenever circumstances were favorable, raided the countries of the Fertile Crescent, the peoples of Arabia were predominately polytheistic, and Mecca was the place of their most important sanctuary, the Ka’aba. Its ancient origins are unknown but, since all accessible deities were represented there, it was a place of annual pilgrimage for all tribes. At one time there were said to have been as many as three hundred and sixty idols in and around the Ka’aba. This, too, was under the control of the Quraysh, who wisely established a non-violent zone that was sacred or forbidden, radiating for twenty miles around the sanctuary, and made Mecca a place where any tribe could enter without fear and where they were free to practice both religion and commerce.
Like other pre-Axial societies, pre-Islamic Arabs beliefs involved a pantheon of accessible deities with whom people could communicate. They also believed in fate which helped them adapt to the high mortality rate. Above all of the lesser Gods was the one remote God, al-Lah – the God who was the same God worshipped by the Jews and Christians. He was beyond the reach of ordinary people. Lesser deities were represented in the Ka’aba and in shrines to their individual honor scattered throughout the peninsula. These gods would be prayed to for rain, children, health and the like and would intercede on their behalf to Allah – the God in times of dire need. This pre-Islamic attitude towards religion provided a framework that was open to ideas and interpretations.
Arabic historical literature and commentaries (which were written much later) contain many legends about the settlement of the Israelites and the Jews in Hejaz. One story dates this settlement as early as Moses' war against the Amalekites, while another relates that King David fought against the idol worshipers in Yathrib (Al-Medina). It is related that after the destruction of the First Temple, 80,000 priests who were saved made their way to Arabia and joined those who had settled there previously. Some inscriptions of Nabonidus, king of Babylon (555–539 B.C.E.) – several of which were discovered in 1956 – in which he described the establishment of his capital in Taymaʾ (552–542) from where he conducted his campaigns as far as Yathrib, combined with Nabonidus' Prayer (discovered among the Qumran (Dead Sea) and in which he mentions a Jewish priest and visionary from the Babylonian Diaspora who accompanied him, suggest that some of the Babylonian Jewish exiles settled with him in Taymaʾ and in Hejaz. Charles Torrey (The Jewish Foundation of Islam (1933), 10, 17–18) thinks that even before that time Jewish traders began to settle in the oases of Hejaz. However, definite confirmation of Jewish settlement here appears only with the advent of people who had distinctly Jewish names or were designated as Jews in Aramaic.[1]
From the other hand, Christian groups were established in Syria and Mesopotamia. In AD 313, the Emperor Constantine made Christianity legal and it became accepted as the imperial religion by Rome. The First Council of Nicaea in AD 325, declared Christ to be both fully God and fully man and established belief in the Trinity which represented God as three in one: the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. Those who disagreed with this new orthodox position, Nestorians, Gnostics, and Arians for example, were excommunicated and declared heretics. Many fled from persecution, beyond the reach of the Byzantine Empire into the Persian and Arab worlds. Theirs was a proselytizing faith and as they spread throughout the Peninsula a number of tribes were converted. The Ghassanids, who wintered on the border of Byzantium, became the largest early Christian tribal community, the Nabateans another, and by the sixth century the Yemenite city of Najran was a center of Arab Christianity.
The distance from both empires enabled beliefs in the Arab Peninsula to evolve and flourish independently, especially in Mecca. According to Fred M. Donner, Professor of Near Eastern History at the University of Chicago, by the sixth century paganism was receding in the face of the gradual spread of monotheism. Hanifism arose in Mecca and spread throughout the Hejaz. Its members “turned away from” idolatry, seeking to follow the original monotheism of Abraham, before the establishment of either Judaism or Christianity. The Prophet Abraham, who is traditionally believed to have built the Ka’aba, is the ancestor of the Arabs, according to the Old Testament, and the ancestor of the Muslim believers through his faith, according to the Qur’an.[2]
The beginning of Islam started with the preaching of Prophet Mohammed who claimed to receive the inspiration of God; in his late 30s Prophet Mohammad took to regularly visiting a cave in Mount Hira, on the outskirts of Mecca, to seek solitude and contemplation. In 610, at the age of 40, Prophet Mohammad returned from one such visit telling his wife he had either gone mad or become a prophet, for he had been visited by an angel. The initially startled Khadija became his first convert. Prophet Mohammad reported that while in a trance-like state, the Angel Gabriel appeared to him and said "Proclaim!" But like Moses, Mohammed was a reluctant prophet. He replied, "I am not a proclaimer." The angel persisted, and the Prophet repeatedly resisted, until the angel finally overwhelmed Muhammad. After that prophet Mohammed started to ask close people to join him in his new journey and more and more people joined, the Qurashi community saw the danger of Mohammed message and started to fight it back by torturing the people who joined him which led to the flee of prophet Mohammed to Al-Medina until finally the two sides confronted in different battles that resulted to the takeover of Mecca and proclaim it as the center for the Islamic world and implemented new Islamic rules which favored Muslims majority, but it didn’t neglected the other religious minorities until the end of the rule of the fifth Caliph Ali ben Abi Taleb and with his death the whole structure of Islamic society changed to what we see today of conflicts with other religions by the concept of Jihad, and among itself by different divisions, sects and doctrines.
Less than one hundred years after Prophet Mohammad’s death in 632 the first Muslim historians began to write about his life. These were Mohammad ibn Ishaq (d. 767), Muhammad ibn ‘Umar al-Waqidi (d. c. 820); Mohammad ibn Sa’d (d. 845); and Abu Jarir at-Tabari (d. 923). These scholars reconstructed their narrative from oral traditions and early documents, and through their effort we know more about prophet Mohammad and the life of the Islamic ummah than we do any other Prophet. Nevertheless we need to keep in mind that the stories of Prophet Mohammad’s life and his sayings (Hadith) were written to satisfy contemporary norms and included miraculous and legendary stories that might be misinterpreted today and took out of context to serve certain groups or certain interests.
Going back to the days of the fifth Caliph Ali ben Abi Taleb, who was surrounded by lots of accusations, suspicions and hatred we can find the second rift that cracked the  Islamic nation from one united nation to all what we have today from differences and conflicts starting with the battle of Siffin 657 CE and then the new structure of the Islamic state led by Muawiyah ben Abi Sufyan who established the idea of using religion to serve political goals and which split the nation to different groups and doctrines conflictual not only among themselves but as well with other religions and minorities in the region which led in a way or the other to the current instability in the Middle East.


After reviewing the historical background, we can jump to the modern history from the beginning of the 19th century which dated the first modern conflict in the region by the unification of Saudi Arabia as we know it today and which reflected a huge amount of the impact of the historical background by exposing the relatively new mentality of doctrines as a political tool. After that we can notice the conflicts within the Islamic nation very impacted by the doctrines idea starting with Great Syrian Revolt  during 1924- 1927 going by the Iraqi Shia revolts during 1935–1936 and Arab Revolt in Palestine during 1936 – 1939 until what we see today in the 21st Century like the revolutions of Arab Spring which not only fueled by need for political reforms but as well by religious motivations like what happened in Bahrain and still happening in Syria and Iraq along with ongoing Israeli – Arab conflict.
We can see through reviewing the details of all these conflicts during the past two centuries that religion has played the major role in the Middle East politics, and was the engine of most of these conflicts which presented the current idea of Islam promoting violence and inequality among different groups, though Islam in reality is very just to its own people as much to other. There were mistakes made by Muslims; that is a fact but if we looked back to the days of prophet Mohammed and his successors we can find these mistakes at the minimal rate because religion was not used as a political tool but as a source of civil legislation that guarantees the freedoms and rights of the majority Muslims side by side the other religious minorities and non-religious minorities; an example of the success of Islam as a civil legislation was the demolishing of slavery in peaceful means which prove that religion can be used in the right way it can be very useful because it effects the behaviors of its adherents and can give them the right guidance toward stable, cooperative and effective communities.
Unfortunately, that was not the case after the death of prophet Mohammed and his successors, in the contrary things got worse and the period exploiting Islam to gain political power widespread among the region and impacted the life of all Middle Easterners in a way or the other which started to be obvious since the 9/11 and the terrorist attacks that not only changed the world as we knew but as well changed the life of every living Muslim and the way they perceived; extremism spread even more, terrorism got worse maybe not intensive as it was but we can see more people joining terrorists organizations like Al-Qaeda more than we saw before and most importantly, the gap between religions got wider despite the fact that people have more knowledge about other religions than what they used to have before 9/1,  but still radicalism got stronger as a reaction. Another example we can use is the Israeli – Arab conflict which lasted for over 50 years but still Arabs nor Israelis are willing to reach an agreement not because of their political agendas only but we cant’t denial the impact of religion on this conflict in particular, but then we have to ask the questions; were not Jews, Christians and Muslims living in Arabia peaceful before. So what changed now? The answer to this question will be equally easy and difficult, continuing using the Arab – Israeli conflict we can see the main difference between now (after 1948) and before; is the mix of politics with religion; yes Jews were able to live in Palestine before peacefully though generally they were not inhabitant of Palestine in that time but they were welcomed because they did not have a political-religious goals, in another word Jews were welcomed to live among Palestinians as long as they don’t claim the territory as theirs own but when they did we can see the natural reaction of the Palestinians as people and government along with the Arabs stand on this topic, which is clearly against the announcement of Israel as a country in the territory of Palestine, but as well we can notice that the refusal of Israel as a country from the Palestinian/Arab side is not purely political but fueled by the long hatred between Muslims and Jews which based on the long history of betray and distrust between both sides.
As a result for all what I mentioned through this article , we can see how religion played the main role in fueling the conflicts in the Middle East and shaped the relation of Muslims countries with the world, here we come to the main point of this article; if we can resolve this conflicts gradually and peacefully , the only way to achieve this result is through a democratic change, where the countries and government are built on a strong civil legislation base, with a secular system that guarantees the freedom of all people without discrimination but as well without excluding religion from the societies completely but more leaving religion for personal choice.
I think applying the Turkish experience in other countries through the region will not only help in conflict resolution but as well in the political, economic and social development of the countries because usually religions can create certain restrictions the stand in the way of development, When we review the Turkish experience we can see the characteristics of Islamic society but still not Islamic government, where secularism guarantee the freedom of all religious or non-religious and still manage to function well in the government leading to huge development and economic boom, as well giving Turkey the political lead in the region (from International view) as a positive example or success story from the Middle East. Another question should be asked, can this success story apply to all countries in the region? My answer would be no, adopting a secular system need the right ingredients which are not available in all the countries of the region, or at least not now; for example it will be hard to adopt secular system in Saudi, Kuwait, or Yemen during the short term but this might be possible in other countries in the gulf like UAE, Qatar, Bahrain or Oman and going beyond the Arabic Gulf we can see the secular system needed in countries like Syria, Lebanon and Iraq but as well, it will be a difficult task with existence of the Iranian influence over this countries. Furthermore, we can be optimistic about a secular system in Egypt, Tunisia but pretty pessimist about such scenario in Libya or Sudan.
To sum up, we can say there are some solutions for the conflicts in the Middle East but it needs a long journey through reforms, not only politically and economically but as well religiously and with great commitment from the international community to make this happen, by redirecting aids and funds for the right sectors which will help in developing the countries to develop and raise to the level where they can see the benefits of  equal system like the secular system and take off from there to developments of all sides.
Being locked in the cycle of religion only leads to backwardness and the people and the governments of Middle East need to understand and embrace the fact that secularism means the rejection or exclusion of religion and religious considerations to guarantee all citizens religious and non-religious equal economic, political and social rights despite their religion, race or sex, which eventually will lead to a better societies and will give all the right to practice whatever they believe in without causing harm to other people or state, and work together toward better international development and resolutions for all world conflicts.
Finally, I tried through this article to present a logical solution from my own point of view as a Middle Eastern Muslim myself, as well I tried to present aspects usually overlooked when we talk about Middle East conflicts from a global prospective and I tried to shade the impact of faith and religions on conflicts in this part of the world where I honestly believe, we can call them Interfaith conflicts and try to solve the from this common ground.