One of my problems in today’s
life is the lack of balance in everything, the constant urge to belong to one
of the extremes just to feel different, unique and have a stand in life,
living ostensibly by the poplar trends without much thought on the relevance of
these trends to our true nature which creates way too much fanaticism.
One of my extreme torments that
stems from this ideology, is my deep belief on "no possession philosophy" in such
material world, which really torn me for long years to two persons; one enjoy
every bit of materialism and want to possess whatever desires and the other
wants to own as little as needs to enjoy life and have a suitable enjoyable
life; no more no less than that. But how to find the middle ground to this in a
world infected with ownership and possession frenzy.
Maybe my biggest problem with the
world is not the desire to possess or own material objects - it is a problem but not the biggest so far - but my deepest fear
is that the frenzy expanded to include our desire to possess and own living
objects like animals, and even humans, and honestly the latter is the most
catastrophic form of ownership and possession obsession, we created systems and
processes to normalize that and even legitimize it making it the norm of our
human interactions.
If we look objectively to almost
all human relationships we can find it is governed by some form of either
possession, ownership or both. A good and very early example for that is our
relationship with our parents, when we are born we are registered to belong to
our parents and they literally possess legal rights to us until we are “adult
enough” to handle our OWN BEING.
Another marvelous example is
marriage; it does simply turn two loving human being to property that belongs to
one another, not giving ownership right (marriage agreement) to each other alone
but supported by social norms creating the worst of all possession cages, where
couple under the ownership agreement feel entitled to invade the darkest corner
of the other person individuality ripping it off to pieces in claims of
“sharing” and “building life together”.
A different type of involuntarily
ownership agreement is citizenship; you are born in a country you didn’t choose
and given the passport that proves that you belong to there even if you don’t
really BELONG to there or anywhere in matter of fact, giving your government
the right to make laws and force you by them to do things, anything that was
decided by other people who lived in different time, had different background
and don’t have a clue about YOU as unique entity.
I can keep listing hundreds of
these possession and ownership agreements that were imposed on us and normalized
under so many different names and concepts, I can criticize lots of our
despicable social norms but that’s not the point of this whole thinking
process. My main purpose is to question and find the answers; at least my
answers.
Why we can’t have a functional
human interaction with whoever surround us without any desire to impose our beliefs
or values on them? Why we can’t love our children without stamping them the
moment they are born with our religion, identity and values, make them feel
bad for having their own self, their own being.
Why we allow organized
institutions to tell us how love should look like, or how our human
interactions should be? Why we go with the flow even when we don’t feel like it just
to feel part of something?
And why we don’t question
anything these institutions impose on us, why we don’t think for ourselves and
create what is suitable for us as “unique entity” and an extraordinary
universe. Why we don’t rebel against the order, against the rules and against
everything that doesn’t live in peace with our distinctive being?
And most importantly, why we feel
the need to own anything or anyone to feel safe? Life is temporary and feelings
are not permanent; so I wonder why we waste our whole lives to feel empty again
and again, to surrender to values and concepts proved over and over again that they
are flawed creating an ugly life, and ugly humans and sabotaged world!
